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An update ...


Oh, I had such plans for this blog, back in the when.  I had spoken to a number of perfumers who had suffered similar (and some very different, but still olfactory-related) conditions and I was going to make this blog more of a resource for smell-dysfunction sufferers, than a diary of my own condition. But then I think my life as a parosmic kind of took over, and I simply found it all too difficult to write about.

The last two and a half years, since that fateful cold, have been dark, surreal and difficult, but not entirely without hope. However, if you're one of the readers who wrote to me me over the last 30 months or so, and were one of the ones I was unable to respond to because I was so wrapped up in my own situation, then please accept my heartfelt apologies. I'm sorry. I am very sorry. I didn't respond, not because I was ignoring those messages, or even because I didn't want to respond, but it was simply that it was too painful to relive my own situation over and over and over again, to each new correspondent and I'm rather ashamed that I've been lax as a result. Since I last posted I had a series of depressive episodes, I had to get a new job, and I moved house. I even got nominated for a couple of awards! It's been hard work, but it's not all been bad.  Things are definitely on the up.  Even smell-wise.  In fact, especially smell-wise.

A lot of the emails I've had recently have all asked the same question: "You haven't updated your blog for a while, does this mean you are cured now?", and the answer is no, I'm not cured, but things are better - a LOT better - but I'm not "cured".  I estimate I have around 60-75% of my pre-anosmic smell-function back, and my parosmic symptoms are probably around 20% of the problem they were when just the physical act of washing my hair in the shower, or brushing my damn teeth would have me throwing up and fearing the act of cleaning myself.

I can occasionally drink coffee, I can eat chocolate, I can eat bacon again.  I wouldn't say I particularly "enjoy" any of them these days, but being the in the same room as them is now tolerable, and if my office-deskmate occasionally brings me coffee instead of tea now, then it doesn't mean I need to go home for the rest of the day any more - and I don't have to ask people at the next table in restaurants to move their hot drinks either.  Parosmia makes you a bit of a pariah.  Ironically though, I've probably drunk more coffee in the six months since I discovered it was "back", than I probably did in the five years before it was lost!  Milk chocolate is easier than plain and the Bendicks Bittermint illustrating this piece illustrates my current goal, they were my favourite chocolate ever "before", and I had one the other day that tasted just like Germolene, so I'm winning!  Hey, it's in the right ballpark, at least ...

So, how has this transformation come about?  I won't lie, it hasn't been overnight, and it has involved a fair amount of work, some of which has been awful, and some of it hasn't been so bad really.  But it has basically all been smell training.  When I first read about the technique, back when the parosmia was crippling me so much I could barely leave the house, the very thought of my deliberately smelling anything with intent, much less something that was almost entirely guaranteed to set off a parosmic reaction, made me laugh because it seemed so stupid and so simple, and frankly, it was also terrifying.  Why would I put myself through that?

But, as I contemplated an increasingly restricted world nasally speaking, diet-wise and even socially, I realised that I had to do something to at least try and widen my smell-horizons.  So I started where I knew best, perfume.  Having built myself an initial smell kit, with the recommended essential oils (and I'll go more into the science of smell training itself another time), I realised that the smells weren't working for me, rose just smelled of burned paper, eucalyptus set off the most hideous parosmic reaction ever, clove didn't smell of anything, and lemon was just "lemon", I realised it wasn't working for me, in a way I could work with, and rationalise properly.

Knowing that I could smell violets (there's more about how I made this discovery here: http://parosmiadiaries.blogspot.co.uk/2015/03/a-parosmic-at-anosmotheque.html) quite well, and also owing a huge library of fragrances owing to my perfume blogging, I set myself a challenge.  I'd wear a fragrance a day, whether it set off a reaction or not, and force myself to write about it, just a sentence or two, every day.  I set myself a hashtag on instagram  called #LipsNspritz (there's nearly 400 pictures there now, which gives you an idea of how long I've been doing it), so I could document my "experiment", and now here we are.  I'm back reviewing perfumes, though I find it a lot (a hell of a lot) more difficult than I did before, and my nose gets tired really very quickly indeed, but life is much much better.

Once I started, I realised quite quickly that the more often I encountered something - even something that was "disgusting" initially - the more easily I was able to distinguish that particular "something", and the smell of it got incrementally "better" each time.  Even with things like coffee, and chocolate, and bacon which were my worst triggers for a long time.  Tempting though it is for a parosmic to retreat into a "safe" world of beige and white food that doesn't cause reactions, and to avoid fragrances and try to live as smel-lessly as possible, I think that can just exacerbate the issue.  Its counter-intuitive, I know, that the answer to things smelling disgusting might actually to be to smell MORE disgusting things, and more often, but I think it's definitely helped me, and, from my talks with my facebook pals, I think its helped quite a few of them too.

I liken it to learning a new language. When you lose your sense of smell, your brain loses your "language" of smell at the most basic level, and when you're parosmic, it's basically your brain trying to make sense of what's there, but it just registers a huge barrage of foreign words (smells) and fails miserably to parse it into anything even resembling words (smells).  However, as you eventually expose yourself more and more often to smells (having a conversation with the locals, if you will), those rules start to reveal themselves, you once you can pick out the odd word or two (like I did with violets), you might be able to follow the odd sentence.  But you've got to start having those conversations.  Like just living in a cave in Spain, and only speaking English won't improve your Spanish, hiding out in our homes trying not to smell anything at all won't bring back our sense of smell.  

(Was that metaphor torturous enough?)

All that said, I still come across things I can't smell. Bathroom and kitchen smells in particular remain a bit lost, I still can't tell if I'm burning toast, but on the plus side, I still can't smell sweaty feet/pits on the tube either, which is a blessing, if you ask me. There's a particular molecule in some fragrances that still smells "bad" to me, but I'll be buggered if I can figure out what it is at the moment.  I did have an idea what it was recently, but then I smelled it in its pure form thanks to a perfumer friend of mine, and it actually smelled delicious, so go figure.  I still have to ask if food smells a bit iffy, and I occasionally don't know if I'm smelling something or not: "Is there a smell?" is something I still ask a couple of times a week. I don't know what my new home smells like. I still don't like washing my own hair.  I still can't use minty toothpaste.  My husband, bless him, doesn't smell like a tub of Bisto anymore (this is a good thing, by the way), but now occasionally smells of parma ham.  Which is fine, there's a perfume ingredient I can't remember the name of right now (I want to say sequoia wood, but I'm not sure), that also smells just like parma ham, and it's very sought-after, I'm led to believe. I can live with it.

So no, not cured, but I can speak enough of the lingo to get by, these days.  Just.   I'll try to be better about the emails, I promise.  I'll be back.

Some resources you might find useful:


Smell Training for Functional Anosmics by Chrissi Kelly

Smell Training on Facebook (linked to the above site)

Smell Training by Fifth Sense

Smell Training by the Monell Centre


Comments

  1. So pleased to read your post and especially pleased to see that you have some improvement. Note I don't say 'that you are cured,' as I know that can be something that's just out of reach.
    I 'came down' with parosmia and hyposmia early this year, gradually over a number of weeks, and like you I was struggling to function: basic personal hygiene and walking into a coffee shop were the worst things of all (I simply ceased doing the latter). I stopped eating other than to keep myself from starving, many carefully prepared meals hit the bin. It was upsetting, depressing and anxiety-making. I feel for you too.
    I got a formal diagnosis and have started the smell training with the 4 same essential oils but ugh, rose is rank!
    I am getting better, very slowly and it is really heartening to know that I am doing the right things: getting a noseful of coffee, red wine and my once-favourite geranium soap. One day, I hope to enjoy them all again.
    Thank you for sharing your experiences and for giving me hope that I will continue to improve.

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  2. Absolutely fascinating. It sounds to me (a recent enthusiast of books on neurology) that you're making use of your neuroplasticity to rewire your brain in terms of creating new networks of associations for smells and your language for them. I'm someone who has never had a sensitive sense of smell ("ooh, this is a familiar flavour, what is it? It's on the tip of my tongue..." & usually it turns out to be something I've known since childhood. Like vanilla or lime. I simply wasn't capable of picking out the note or labelling it.) but in the last year or two I've begun a project to see if I could train my nose into something at least above average. I've gone the same route. Putting my nose into everything even if I don't like it; tasting things; and especially, going to perfumes and trying to discern the notes that reviewers have picked out.

    Of course I haven't had your awful experience of losing a whole sensory world, nor of that physical illness and discomfort triggered by simply sensing things - but it seems we have hit upon essentially the same method and I expect the neural processes are very similar, just on a different scale. In fact your experience reminds me of new research into stroke victims for whom it was previously believed that certain physical functions would be forever lost - but new methods of treatment for, e.g. victims with a whole paralysed side, are along the lines of teaching a baby how to walk: crawling along the floor; simply pushing a ball along; washing a bowl clockwise one day and then anticlockwise the next. There have been enormously successful stories and I hope your self-training helps your recovery just as much.

    (Commenting here but it is your Get Lippie blog that I follow.)

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  3. At five weeks in, I am just getting started. I see an ENT on Monday. I miss bacon and coffee and meat. Tofu is my new friend and that's a statement I never thought I would ever make. I have no clue what beer tastes like (now).

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  4. Bless you for posting this. I was affected after a terrible cold in August. Nobody would listen and nobody understands. Sometimes I think I am crazy. Coffee, onions, garlic smell revolting. Poop smells weird and altered. I can't smell garbage, armpits, and natural gas (with scares me). I am constantly worried I smell. ALL of the TIME! I sometimes think I smell something normal, I get excited, then it is gone. SO FRUSTRATING. There is so little information and support on this. Thanks again for making me feel like I am not crazy.

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    1. I just started with parosmia... did you get better? Any advice on what made life easier? What you could eat? I’m so hungry. Thanks!

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  5. I've been searching online for the past week trying to figure out what's wrong with me. I've finally found my answers and I'm so thankful for you. Back in June I had the worst cold(or sinus infection.. maybe) of my life. I couldn't spell or taste for an entire month. It slowly came back, and was fine for the most part except for coffee and cigarette smoke smelled "off". Saturday before last however, everything suddenly smelled and tasted like ammonia garbage gasoline chemical and I've been so frustrated. With the strange exception that I can eat pizza, chocolate cupcake little debbies and drink cherry 7up just fine. Coffee and tuna fish are so far the very worst triggers. Ive felt so hopeless and I'm terrified of going to the doctor only for them to tell me they have no idea what's wrong with me and there's nothing they can do for me. Still, I gotta try everything. I've been rinsing sinuses with netti pot adding a teaspoon of apple cider venegar. No help. I'll definitely be trying the smell training you mentioned. I'm really happy you're improving if only a little. You give me hope.

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  6. so pleased and relieved to find this blog. I had a very diminished sense of smell following a nasty virus in February. Two months ago the sense of smell started to come back but in a very bad way. Smell of coffee is the worst and as a coffee lover that is awful! Anything with onions and root vegetables is awful. Cant pass a Pasty shop without feeling sick with the smell coming out of the door. ( love pasties, too). Toothpaste tastes weird. In fact there is very little that doesn't smell tainted. Ok with plain greek yogurt and milk. Even potato crisps taste off. Am having a course of acupuncture. Only three in so too early to say. I am getting so depressed with it so it was such a relief that there are others out there with the same problem and that I'm not imagining it. I think everyone thinks I'm mad!!! I'm planning to see an ENT consultant privately to see if he can offer any comfort but in the meantime the smell training looks positive and I will give it a try. Tried a steroid spray and do a nasal wash daily. So off to stick my nose into a bag of ground coffee!!! Watch this space.

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  7. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m so sorry you went through all that, and am so encouraged that you are getting better. Thank you for being brave and being a voice in the midst of your own vey real struggle.

    I have post COVID-19 parosmia. I had my smell back, and then suddenly a few months later, bang, things smelled disgusting! I think we all agree, this sucks!

    I’d love to hear more from others as to what has been working for and helping them.

    As a result of my research, I’m currently doing smell training, taking omega 3 oils, and going to start a nasal rinse.

    As for foods... fresh fruits ans veggies seem to be fine so far (esp raspberrries and cotton candy grapes, yum)... raw foods in general are better, as when they get cooked they seem to get weird. Sushi is my go to, and Thai red curry (without meat) has been great. Rice and especially oatmeal have been life savors. Also tofu as been wonderful (but not cooking it, mostly boiled and added to things). I’m going to start trying to make meal replacement smoothies (make sure you get a good fat and protein in there). I have to avoid garlic, onions, and coffee at all costs.

    It’s been hard to coexist with others who like to cook ans eat food (darn people). I spend most of my time in a room behind a closed door with a towel under it to avoid the smells. I’ve found recent that putting Vicks vapor rub under my nose before going out to be social can be helpful. I’m also going to try a swimmers nose plug next. I’m loosing a lot of weight, so thinking about doing that nose plug thing while I’m eating to get some food in me until i figure out better what I can eat.

    What about you guys? Anything that’s worked? Tips?

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